Skill can take you a good ways, at times. So can persistence. And assistance from powerful friends. Sometimes far enough, but nothing is assured.
And there’s confidence.
Confidence is the expectation of a positive outcome in whatever you’re doing. It is the driver of a winning attitude.
Attitude and confidence. Confidence and attitude. No question, expectation of success can fuel a winning attitude. If you are sure you’re going to make it, then you act that way – and you succeed, often.
But what happens when you don’t feel all that confident? When you’re missing that surge of confidence to drive you over the finish line, can you do it on attitude?
You bet you can, and the people who live and work that way are the ones we admire the most.
We are constantly aware, as human beings, of the attitudes around us. We are affected – or not – by the approval, respect, contempt or admiration we detect in the people we come in contact with.
It works the other way, too. If we’re good at projecting an inspiring or reassuring attitude, people look to us for leadership toward outcomes worth struggling to achieve.
Accepting and faithfully executing such responsibility calls for an attitude. We call that one “responsibility.”
Winning attitude. What is it?
While confidence is a feeling, attitude is an intention.
Confidence can fail you when things aren’t going well, and sometimes for no particular reason. Positive attitude really doesn’t care whether things look good or not. You make your own attitude, and maintain it.
You don’t allow it to slip away. Attitude is a product of will. It’s your decision, not just your response to what happened or what someone said. It’s internal. It is conscious intent, and if you devote yourself to it you can build it into steely commitment.
When it is specific and goal-directed, it devotes all available attention and resources to getting somewhere. That works, but you must do the preparation.
If it is to be a winning attitude in tough circumstances, it also demands discipline and continuing focus. Few individuals, organizations or teams care enough, or value some potential outcome to the extent required, for extraordinary achievement. But it happens, and attitude is the reason.
With attitude, you don’t wait or hope for things to go your way. You plan out how you will make things happen, and that’s what you do.
Where does this level of attitude come from? You can be born with certain amount, but it takes a tough mind to consistently perform that way. You must pay attention to the specific moments of your ongoing experience. You retain clear memories of your successes, and you (privately) re-run them in your mind.
You make it your business to build your personal conviction that you are a winner. You make habits of strong focus and stubborn attention to finishing things off.
You spend time dissecting the behaviors around you that you see producing success. You practice those behaviors, integrating them into your own way of doing business.
This is a grind. Your attitude is that you are going to invest the effort it takes to be the best.
When you get there, the confidence takes care of itself.
See also: Attitude